2. Let him be a Boy!
This is the one I struggle with the most. We have a 3 bedroom apartment, but we're in NYC, so it's not a huge space and he loves to hang out and be crazy in the living room. This quickly can get loud and messy with 2 other mobile kids wanting to hang in the living room as well and I can get easily stressed. I've learned I need to take a deep breath and let him be a boy! Sure, I don't want him climbing up the wall (it's happened more than once) or jumping off the furniture, but I need to let loose a bit and just let him be a kid. And, if things get a bit too crazy for me, I am learning to strongly encourage he and Lucas to take their crazy play to their room. I can check on them, but not have to be right in the middle of whatever animal attack game they are playing at the moment.
3. Let him get dirty.
Outdoor play is obviously extremely important, especially with all that "bouncing off the walls" energy, but what I find interesting is that most of the time, when we go outside and play, he wants to explore or dig in the dirt or jump in mud. A little over a year ago, when we still had a backyard and he could go outside anytime he wanted, I had a harder time letting him get dirty, but these days, because we make the trip somewhere to get that outdoor experience, I just let him go for it. And it brings him such joy and I find myself having such a great time watching he and Lucas play and get dirty. Most days the bathwater is dark brown when all is said and done, but it's well worth it! And if you have to buy play clothes just for those dirt days, so be it! :)
This one is in my mind, the most important. Praying for your little guy, especially, if like me, you didn't grow up with boys, make a huge difference in how to respond to these daily situations. I'm so thankful that boys will be boys and will play hard like boys and not worry so much about growing up and acting older. I think as girls, we miss the fun in just relishing in each and every moment like boys do. Praying about these situations and asking God for wisdom opens up a new appreciation for the excitement and energy your guy brings to your family and also allows God to show you things you've never seen before.
I'm so thankful I have these boys that God so graciously entrusted me with. I don't feel qualified most days, but know that He trusts me with their care and that is so humbling. I treasure the moments when I get to see life through their eyes. Oh the adventure and exploration that awaits. I don't want to ever squelch that or make them feel like they can't be themselves.
Do you have boys in your family? What's the greatest thing you appreciate about them?
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